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It’s OK To Feel Angry
Many of us tend to think of anger as not being OK. But anger can be a useful step forward in the seven stages of grief. We move from the numbness of denial to a willingness to fight.
A sense of injustice can spur us on. A sense of injustice can make us determined not to give in because we are not going to let this or them beat us. We are going to keep fighting.
I have heard it said:
“If you feel pain, you know you are still alive.”
If you are angry, you are feeling pain.
Well done. You are still alive.
I Felt Angry About Being Ill
When I was living with chronic illness, I felt angry about many things
- I felt angry that no one came forward to look after me and I had to fight so hard to stay alive.
- I felt angry that life seemed to demand that I be more reasonable than those who were healthy and had less to deal with.
- I felt angry that whatever I did, I didn't seem to be able to get things set up so that I was looked after.
- I felt angry with myself for being ill!
It was hard for me to feel anger. It still is. I tend to judge myself for it. I did a lot of work on allowing myself to feel anger in order to move through this one of the seven stages of grief.
If you are someone with a commitment to forgiveness, someone who finds it easy to understand the other's point of view, it may be worth doing some work on allowing yourself to feel anger.
To learn to feel my anger, I used a technique I developed called The Release. Enter your email address below to download a FREE ebook from the site on The Release – A Practice of Forgiveness and Acceptance.
Am I Allowed To Feel Angry?
If you feel angry, right now, give yourself some space on your own and allow yourself to feel it.
Allowing anger doesn't mean that you will necessarily communicate it to another, or tell someone that you feel angry with them.
It is a private commitment to be a friend to yourself who says:
“With me, it is OK to feel angry.
I love you when you feel angry.
I love you when you feel calm.
I love you however you feel.”
Is it wrong to feel angry?
Feeling anger does not involve making a judgement about whether you are right or wrong about what you feel angry about. This is the first step.
Your feelings are your feelings. They are not right or wrong.
What Are The Benefits Of Feeling My Anger?
As you feel your anger in a space of love and privacy
...you are less likely to express it badly with someone else.
...you get a clearer idea of what you are angry about. It might not be what you think.
...you get a clearer idea of who you are angry with. It might not be who you think.
The atmosphere of love you provide for yourself allows the anger to lead beyond itself. Giving yourself permission to feel angry about feeling ill allows you to move more quickly through the seven stages of grief.
Move from The Seven Stages Of Grief: Anger to
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If you want more help on: How to cope with feelings of anger, move to
Motivational Poems – I See And I Accept Where I am Now.
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