When we apply our spirituality in relationships, each relationship becomes stronger and a joyful means by which we open more and more to God’s love.
We are all in relationship, even if it is only with those who occupy our thoughts and feelings.
A Course In Miracles
(the abbreviation is ACIM) talks about how the world engages in special relationships...
I will give you this if you give me that.
I will be this for you if you are that for me.
ACIM talks beautifully about how we can invite Jesus and the Holy
Spirit into our relationships, and practice forgiveness in our
When we do so the relationship is transformed into a Holy Relationship.
When we strengthen our relationship with God, we strengthen our romantic connections and our friendships.
We are allowing God's love to flow through us to the other, and we are allowing God to guide us.
We can see God in the people we meet. It doesn't mean that we won't also see the messiness of relationships and the mistakes made by ourselves or another, but we can also take a break and see ourselves as meeting another beautiful aspect of God.
The greeting 'Namaste' expresses this beautifully - Namaste means "the divine in me meets the divine in you".
When you choose to believe that God has unconditional love for the person you are with, you receive the wonderful gift of reminding yourself that God has unconditional love for you.
Our minds can get very busy deciding what someone's behaviour means ...what it means about how they feel about us
...what it means about whether we should stay with them or leave,
...what it means about whether we should say something or keep silent.
Busy and difficult thoughts can be distressing.
When you find yourself deciding what someone else's behaviour means, you can ask God to guide you instead:
There is a FREE forgiveness ebook available on this website.
Releasing Judgment – Forgiveness Exercises for self acceptance and inner peace.
The book outlines forgiveness exercises that I developed to allow me to apply spirituality in relationships.
When I was living with severe disability and needed to be cared for, my main relationships were with carers.
Through forgiveness, some of
the caregivers that I found the most frustrating became my greatest teachers
– giving me insights that were important to my recovery from ME/CFS.
Although many of us aim to establish our main relationship with God, in practice our physical relationships may feel more important to us.
Setting out to experience spirituality in a relationship, keeps leading us to remember God and leads us forward on the spiritual path.
And when we invite God into our relationships, we are ensuring that God has access to transform our minds and transform the world through us.
I can affirm that applying spirituality in relationships truly works.
1. Express appreciation for your loved one. Aim for your appreciative comments to outnumber critical comments.
2. When you find yourself lost in anger and fighting your
corner, instead express to your partner the fear or sense of lack
beneath the anger.
If you don't know what you feel you could describe the physical feeling. eg. I am feeling tension in my stomach.
As well as communicating your vulnerability, this means you are saying something that the two of you can't argue about. It is simply true - this is how you are feeling.
3. Take 3 deep breaths and shift body position to regain your sense of perspective.
Seeing you and your loved-one resting in and inspired by God's love.
Please see the same for me and mine :-)
With the Love we are,
Katherine T Owen, webmaster,
Author of Be Loved, Beloved (Kindle)
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