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There is a great little inspirational story you may have heard already:
It is so so common that we do this to ourselves.
How often do you say:
I should know how to do this or be this already.
For example, when thinking we should be different, we might say:
"I should be able to be calm."
Do you know how to be calm all the time?
Do you know what?
Right now, you are HERE in a place where you feel anger (if you do), and it is OK to be HERE.
When we accept ourselves as we are, we can stop putting our energy into pretending to be somewhere else.
Then we can....
...get the help we need or
...develop the skills we need or
...receive the directions we need
to take the next step.
Let us continue to take the example of learning to feel your anger with a view to learning to feel more calm.
On the outside you might first choose to 'act as if' you feel calm even if you don't.
This ability to put your feelings to one side shows emotional intelligence and it is a wonderful skill to cultivate.
But, you don't need to settle for pretence or keeping up a mask.
In private, you can also take the time to allow yourself to feel the anger.
By allowing yourself to feel what you feel you are setting out on the private journey to become someone who genuinely feels calm more often.
This emotional journey may mean recognising your anger.
It may mean exploring your anger.
It may mean feeling shocked at just how much anger you feel.
But hey, isn’t it great to accept you are HERE so you have the freedom to move somewhere else?
Isn't it great to accept who you are, so you have the freedom to grow gently into who you choose to be next?
Advice for losing weight
Do you want to lose weight?
Start by accepting yourself as someone who is the weight you are.
"It's OK to be the weight I am."
"I love myself at the weight I am."
Acceptance is the key to raising your motivation to lose weight.
Advice for passing your driving test
Do you want to find the motivation to take your driving test yet again?
Start by accepting yourself as someone who has failed the test before.
"It's OK to have failed the test."
"I love myself when I fail."
"I love myself when I succeed."
Acceptance is the key to raising your motivation to keep learning.
Advice for learning to rest when it is needed for your health
Do you want to learn to rest when you need to rest?
Start by accepting yourself as someone who doesn't yet know how to do this.
"It's OK not to know how to rest."
"I love myself when I push my body too hard."
"I love myself when I rest."
Acceptance is the key to raising your motivation to learn to rest.